Ask the average guy on a dating site what kind of men he thinks women on the site are looking for and you’ll get some variation of “tall, super good-looking and in great shape.”
In forums and on blogs everywhere guys complain about the ridiculous competition on dating sites.
Read a few of the rants and they all begin to sound the same: “Women have it so easy on dating sites. There are so many more guys on dating sites than women that women only go for the best-looking guys, which means average guys get scraps at best.”
Oh cry me a river.
If that quote mirrors your feelings, I’ve got some good news for you.
Meeting women online can be extremely frustrating when you’re not getting any responses, but it can be even more frustrating when you’re getting responses but nothing is panning out.
Once you get good at getting responses, the next step is converting those responses to phone numbers and then meeting up with the women.
The biggest hurdle to get over is getting women to respond to your emails. After you’ve gotten passed that hurdle, the other steps are fairly easy.
Having said that, there are lots of women who will respond to your emails but won’t go any further. Why is that?
For obvious reasons, a lot of guys want to know when it’s okay to talk about sex with women.
It only seems fair to discuss sex with a new woman at some point, right?
Wrong!
If you’ve been on dating sites, you’ve surely noticed how many women directly state in their profile something to the effect that they don’t want to receive sexual propositions through email.
Why do you think so many women have to say that in their profile?
It’s because some guys think if they talk to a woman about sex, the chances of her having sex with them increases.
Nope, it doesn’t work like that.
If you want to meet more women on dating sites, you’ll need to get more responses to your profile and emails.
There is one method that trumps all others in terms of consistently getting the most responses from women.
The method I’m talking about is split testing, and it’s something you must understand if you want to meet more women online.
So what is split testing?
Dating sites can get pretty discouraging when you’re not getting any responses.
After all, meeting women on the internet is supposed to be easier than meeting women in real life, otherwise why would you even try to meet women on the internet, right?
When you see women at a bar surrounded by a bunch of drunk idiots trying to pick up on them, it’s only natural the women are a little defensive and hard to meet. That makes sense.
But when women sign up on dating sites, you expect them to be more open to meeting men. Otherwise why would they be on there?
Do they just sign up to get attention from men?
I remember my first month on Match. I must have sent a hundred emails that month and I didn’t get a single response.
I seriously considered giving up.
I assumed I wasn’t getting any responses based on my pictures.
Finally on the last day of my subscription, I got an email from a chick named “EverClearQueen,” or something like that.
I ended up getting her number and we talked a few times but never met up.
That one email was enough to get me to sign up for another month on Match.
Fast forward a few years.
I had gotten a lot better at writing emails and I figured out a lot of little nuances that made a big difference in terms of getting a lot of responses from women.
I remember a few years back when I was unsuccessful at online dating sites.
Back then I would try things haphazardly, and as you might imagine, my results were spotty because of that.
Once I got more consistent though, magically I started having more consistent results.
And that consistency is ultimately what is responsible for my success today.
Most Guys Don’t Have A Plan
Most guys have no plan when it comes to online dating. Is it any surprise then why their results are so bad?
Imagine not having a plan in your career. If you had no plan, what are your chances of ending up in a career you enjoy?
It’s crazy how many people in life have no plan for getting the things they want. Most people sit around waiting for things to fall into their lap.
Life doesn’t work that way, especially not dating.
In this post we’re going to discuss one aspect of online dating you have to master if you want to meet a lot of women – getting women’s phone numbers.
Getting a woman’s number is very easy when you know what you’re doing, and damn near impossible when you don’t.
There’s more to it than just sending a quick, “What’s your number?”
Consistently getting women’s phone numbers boils down to doing three things well:
1. Attracting or making her curious enough to respond to your email
2. Qualifying her
3. Asking for her number the right way
If you mess up any of these three parts, you’re chances of getting a woman’s phone number go way down. But when you get them right, you’ll be rewarded with easily being able to get the phone numbers of the women you’re most attracted to.
Attracting Women Online
There are lots of places to meet women: bars, coffee shops, work, college, speed dating events, through friends and family, grocery stores, the gym, etc.
However, there is one place that is without a doubt the easiest place to meet women: online dating websites.
Not all online dating sites are created equal though. The Best Online Dating Sites
There are many reasons why online dating is the easiest way to meet women:
1. You can meet women at any time of day or night.
2. You’ll come across women you never would have met while going to the same old places you always go to.
3. You can quickly meet many women at once, rather than meeting only one woman at a time.
4. It allows you to find out exactly which women are interested in you from the start.
5. It doesn’t require very much time, money or effort.
6. There is a never ending supply of women on dating sites.
7. If you travel a lot, you can have women waiting for you when your plane touches down.
8. You don’t have to deal with interruptions like you do at bars.
9. The competition online sucks, which means you can dominate pretty easily once you write a few good emails.
10. You’re able to get a better feel for a woman before meeting her in person, that way if she’s not what you’re looking for personality-wise, you don’t have to waste your time meeting her.
11. Women on dating sites are single and actively looking for men to date!
12. It’s very low pressure. You don’t have to approach like you would in a bar, so if you hate doing that, you’ll never have to again.
13. It allows you to consistently meet many women, day in and day out, without feast or famine cycles.
The Top Three Reasons Why Online Dating Is The Easiest Way To Meet Women
The list of advantages online dating offers could go on forever, but here are the top three reasons why online dating is the easiest way to meet women:
Success on dating sites boils down to getting women to respond positively to your emails.
The average looking guy can’t and shouldn’t wait for women to email him first.
If you are good looking, you might get some women emailing you first, but don’t stake your success on waiting for women to make the first move.
Getting good at emailing women is absolutely critical to meeting a lot of women online, and this article shows you how to do that.
Unsuccessful vs. Successful
The average guy does nearly everything wrong when he emails women, and that’s why his results suck. This is his experience; see if it sounds familiar:
• He becomes obsessed with one or two women he thinks are perfect for him
• He’s not sure what to say when he finally works up the courage to email those women (if he ever does)
• He spends hours writing and rewriting one single email to one woman
• He only sends out a few emails a month
• Women don’t respond to his emails
• He’s not sure why he doesn’t get responses to his emails
• If a woman doesn’t respond to his first email, he never emails her again
• He finally becomes so frustrated with his lack of results he just quits online dating, convinced it’s just a scam.
Guys that are successful on dating sites do almost the exact opposite when it comes to emailing women. This is the successful guy’s experience:
